Ugh. Law Enforcement Funerals-it's one of the heaviest but most requests topics from yall. I get a lot of DMs about what to wear, what to expect, and what they're like. It's a difficult and sad thing to talk about, but unfortunately, most of us LEO families will attend at least one during our officer's … Continue reading law enforcement funerals: what you need to know about attending one as a leow
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how to support a fellow blue family after a critical incident
Earlier this year I wrote this post about my officer’s critical incident and what I found helped me in the midst of his OIS (officer involved shooting). So many of you reached out saying that you could relate and that you found it helpful. This is heartbreaking, because so many of our blue family members … Continue reading how to support a fellow blue family after a critical incident
10 things to do as a police wife after an officer involved shooting or critical incident {what helped me as a LEOW when my LEO was in an OIS}
Having your officer involved in an OIS (officer involved shooting) or critical incident is a lot of police wives’ nightmares come true. It’s stressful and frightening, and can even be traumatizing and life changing. Every incident is different and every family is different, so there’s no “one size fits all” piece of advice I can … Continue reading 10 things to do as a police wife after an officer involved shooting or critical incident {what helped me as a LEOW when my LEO was in an OIS}
we wish you knew
We’re all quick to throw around judgements and opinions, but a lot of us don’t really know what wearing a pair of duty boots is like. To be honest, I don’t either, because I don’t wear them-but I’m married to them. And over the years I’ve gotten a glimpse at what blue life can really … Continue reading we wish you knew
the shattering and swelling of my blue heart
Last night I was cleaning up the kitchen after dinner when my officer came downstairs, almost ready to leave for work. He handed me his badge with a mourning band pulled over it and asked “can you help me with this?” I pinned it on his uniform with steady hands, gave him a kiss, said … Continue reading the shattering and swelling of my blue heart
while you were sleeping
Last night, while you were sleeping, a hero was killed. While you were sleeping safely, thousands of first responders were awake, working and patrolling to protect you. While you were sleeping, their other halves slept alone, so you could rest undisturbed. And while you were sleeping, some made the ultimate sacrifice. Last night, while you … Continue reading while you were sleeping
gratitude + grief
Tonight I sit in bed, wrapped up in my officer’s old academy sweatshirt, and begin winding down with some tea and plans to watch tv. I glance down at my mug and the word embezzled on the side. Thankful. After the tragedy in Honolulu today-and lately what seems like daily tragedies of some sort or … Continue reading gratitude + grief
the target of the badge
As we come off of a hard weekend-losing three officers senselessly in the line of duty is just two days-my mind wanders to the badge that my own officer wears on his chest. It, and the rest of his uniform, and his patrol car, and the general job title he carries, is a target to … Continue reading the target of the badge
the peace i give cannot come from the world
Verses: John 14:27 says "I am leaving you with a gift-peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift that the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid." John 14: 17-19 says "He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it … Continue reading the peace i give cannot come from the world
the mourning band
The sight of this band causes a visceral reaction each and every time I see it. It’s just a few inches of fabric. It weighs practically nothing, could easily get misplaced in the house or the car, and thankfully doesn’t see the light of day all that often. But each time I see it out, … Continue reading the mourning band